In recent weeks and months, it seems like we have been hearing more and more incidents where something bad has happened to gay men as a result of hooking up online.Not too long ago, I saw a a news item about a who was physically and sexually assaulted at gunpoint and robbed. An elderly Michigan man was murdered by a trio of thugs as a result of a Grindr hookup gone terribly wrong.I am personally aware of two cases where people have been the victims of violent crime (and in one case, extortion) as a result of trying to hook up.Looking around the Internet, there seems to be very little information “out there” that offers guidance to gay men on basic, essential safety precautions for making a sexual connection.
And so what follows is a list of 10 tips that I hope you will find useful in keeping you safe.Before continuing, I know there will be some who will suggest that the best way to prevent a bad hook-up is to avoid hooking up at all.My response to this is simple – people are still going to hook up! Better to offer some practical, realistic suggestions as opposed to the Nancy Reagan approach (just say no) advice.At its core, we are talking about risk reduction here. And the tips being offered in what follows could very well apply to straight individuals. Crime is an equal opportunity destroyer folks.Let’s move on to the 10 online hookup safety tips. Please keep in mind this list is by no means exhaustive. Also, remember these tips are not foolproof. Again, we are talking harm reduction here.
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A “trick” phone is a pre-paid phone that is used only for online hook ups. You can get a fairly inexpensive cell phone at most drugstores. You can also buy them for less than $10.00.With these phones, you simply charge them up with minutes using PayPal, a Debit/Credit card or direct draft from your bank.
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These phones will allow you to download your favorite hookup aps and will make real calls.You can also send and receive txt and SMS type information (aka pics). The reason you should consider using a trick phone will become clear in the next few tips. When you start talking with someone online, be it on the computer or a phone app, you should think very carefully about what you provide. I am suggesting this because you have no idea who you are talking to on the other end of that electronic device.If a person has your real name, they have something personal about you that can later be used in a way that con artists and other criminals know how to use.
If you do not want to use a fake name, just give out your first name and nothing else.The other reason you may want to use a fake name is simply this – if the hook up goes south while you are there, you don’t want the creep to find you again. Don’t give him your real name until you are absolutely sure you feel safe. If you send a stranger an X picture that includes your face, you have just given that person the ability to potentially extort from you. Do a quick search of the Internet and see how many times this has happened to people. If you must send out pictures of yourself and want to include your face, consider upper torso shots only.
In other words, do not send anything you would not want your boss, your grandmother or your co-workers to see.I recognize here that people are likely saying to themselves. “How do I know the person is real?” My simple answer to you is this – you don’t!That is the problem folks, you have no idea who you are dealing with on the other end of that computer or phone. They can send you a dozen photos of themselves but that does not mean that is who they say they are and that does not mean the pictures you are seeing are of them. Why would you give a stranger something explosive to use against you? A buddy system is a 25 cent term for letting a close friend know trust that you are going out on a hook up. Tell your buddy the time, place and location of your destination and make sure you check in with them.Consider creating a code-word that you can use with your buddy that you can quickly say or text to let them know you are in trouble.
Also, after the hook up, make sure you contact your buddy and let them know you are on your way home, regardless of how the hook up went.One other tip that some people suggest is to text your buddy a photo of the person you are going to be hooking up with. For what it is worth, there will at least be an image that can be used by police if something bad happens (even if the image is fake, it has likely been used before by the person). @CharlesThe world doesn’t revolve arkund you; sorry. I don’t have Snapchat (I deleted it), or Facebook (which I deleted too). I have an Instagram, but I’m “recycling” it to make it more a canvas for me than a social venue, which means that I’m removing my pics from there as well. Also, none of my photos shows up on reverse search. I have tried it.
Are my photos real? I don’t know, but I think the fact that I have different photos of myself (in multiple angles) proves they are.Point is, people are cautious (especially since we are a very targeted minority), and that won’t change to accommodate you. Personally I disagree with using a fake name and not giving out your real phone number.
I reverse image search every single picture a guy sends me. If nothing pops up I ask if they have a snapchat or a phone number.
If they have a phone number I use it to check them out on facebook.Basically if any of your pictures aren't yours (Ill know from reverse image searching), if you claim you don't have snapchat (unlikely), if your facebook search comes back with a different name than you told me, and you refuse to give out your phone number you are automatically blocked.I expect to know exactly who I am dealing with and have a way of confirming that (unless you want to meet in person first, which can be a nuisance for random hookups). For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: Show Details NecessaryHubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized.
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